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OTHERING or BROTHERING? – living in peace on this small blue planet

Oct 22nd, 2014 Bev's Blog Bev Murrill 6 min read

If you’re new here, you may want to subscribe to my RSS feed. Thanks for visiting!The youngest girl child in a family where Dad reigned supreme, I was left in no uncertain terms that one gender ruled the other, and the gender I belonged to didn’t rule anything. Consequently, as I absorbed my otherness, I was also imbibing the fallacy that males were privileged, powerful…

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Lead, Follow, or Get Out of the Way

Sep 27th, 2014 Bev's Blog Bev Murrill 6 min read

“LEAD, FOLLOW, OR GET OUT OF THE WAY!”  – Thomas Paine, Father of the Revolution I’ve loved this quote for years. It sums up the essence of life for me. We can be detached observers, or we can get involved and use our lives to make a difference, to riot against injustice and poverty and indifference and be agents of change. Vive la Revolution! I…

The Secret of Mentoring: Give What You Have

The Secret of Mentoring: Give What You Have

Aug 19th, 2014 Bev's Blog Bev Murrill 8 min read

Don’t ever let anyone tell you that ministry isn’t lonely. All of us who have any word that means “leader” in our role description know that when it comes to the crunch, good advisors are scarce. My early years of ministry were among the loneliest of my life. Rick and I had been unceremoniously flung into pastoring a church with no previous experience or training, and…

NOT playing the Blame Game

(NOT) PLAYING THE BLAME GAME

Aug 11th, 2014 Bev's Blog Bev Murrill 7 min read

For several years I have been extremely fortunate to be a member of a team of senior leaders who are not interested in playing the ‘Blame Game’. My colleagues have been men and women of great creativity, integrity, humour, compassion and faith who are committed to living their lives in humility and transparency. In the years since this team has developed, I have experienced none…

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Tackling Talkaholics

Jul 27th, 2014 Bev's Blog Bev Murrill 7 min read

I am always interested in the way people communicate. Take conversations, for example. For most people, a conversation is a fantastic opportunity to gain insights, get to know someone better, learn more, and generally exchange information. For a small percentage of the population though, a conversation is just a monologue, thinly disguised.    Being a talkaholic is a real problem for human relationships, and even…

History

MENTORING PART 6: Wrapping it up

Jun 10th, 2014 Bev's Blog Bev Murrill 7 min read

History and legend record the deeds of princes and kings, but each of us has a birthright to actualise our potential. Through their deeds and work, mentors help us to move toward that actualisation ~Gordon F. Shea   There are times in most of our lives when there were people who were willing to mentor us but we didn’t recognise them or we felt the…

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MENTORING PART 5: THE POWER OF PEERS

May 29th, 2014 Bev's Blog Bev Murrill 6 min read

The Three Musketeers by Alexander Dumas is one of the best-loved classics of all time. A swashbuckling adventure story of camaraderie, subterfuge, romance and honour, it’s ironic that there are actually not three but four musketeers, and the one who isn’t technically a musketeer is actually the leader of the band. What that means is that when people work together for a common purpose, who’s…

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MENTORING PART 4: BEING A MENTOR = BIG PICTURE THINKING

May 10th, 2014 Bev's Blog Bev Murrill 10 min read

A man stood near a construction site where several bricklayers were working hard in the hot sun. He asked one guy, ‘What are you doing?’ The guy looked at him as though he was a sandwich short of a picnic and said ‘Duh! I’m laying bricks.’ The man moved on to a second bricklayer, asking him the same question, ‘What are you doing?’ The second…

Anamchara - soul friend

MENTORING PART 3: ANAMCHARA: THE FRIEND WE ALL WANT

Apr 24th, 2014 Bev's Blog Bev Murrill 7 min read

Anamchara is a Gaelic word that comes from the ancient Celtic Church in 4th century AD Britain, through the theologian Pelagius. He strongly encouraged the developing of Anamchara relationships for every Christ follower.  ‘Anamchara’ literally means ‘soul friend’, and such a person in your life was of great worth. The idea evokes someone who has already gone down the road you have begun on, and…

Mentoring Chemistry

MENTORING Part 2: HOW TO GET A MENTOR – Chemistry, Seasons and Popping the Question

Apr 17th, 2014 Bev's Blog Bev Murrill 7 min read

My early years of ministry were among the loneliest years of my life. Rick and I had been unceremoniously thrown into pastoring a church with no previous experience or training, and no idea of what we were doing. Our tiny church of 12 people had been birthed less than two years previously, we were its third set of leaders and it suffered a split the…